by Chipo Shambare: The Going Deeper Coach Mentor
Autumn is when the leaves start to fall, which is why we call it Fall in some parts of the world. This is about letting go of what no longer serves or supports us and our development.
Trees show us every Autumn how to let go and, according to my observation and school of thought. I am sure you agree, how lovely it is to see the beautiful colours and the letting go of the leaves that have died.
Can we as humans learn from nature, trees in particular?
Imagine following nature’s letting go process of those things that no longer serve us? Freeing ourselves from the past by letting go, maybe helping ourselves move forward with lightness and ease.
Look at the pictures above of the trees I took in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada.
Which trees do you identify with the most? Which tree(s) represent your letting go or holding on to the leaves in your life? How many trees are calling you?
Do you see yourself in all or some of the trees?
Can you imagine the trees talking to you, letting you know the significance and meaning of their process and reasons for letting go?
Could it be preparing themselves for the next stage of their life? Maybe the tree is done with the situation and the relationship with those leaves?
Here are some of my ideas and tips for letting go of your leaves, of the past.
This is just one way, and you may have your own. Now you have another choice…
1. Take Inventory
Take Inventory of those things, situations, people, groups that you feel wronged you: the stresses, conflicts, those that cause overwhelm.
2. Review and have compassion
Review and have compassion to understand what happened and why it happened. Don’t dwell on it. This is giving your ego self a chance to articulate so it understands what happened. Look at both sides of the situation; the good and the bad. Most of all, look at the real reason the super conscious reason and the lesson for you.
“Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you.”
– Shannon L. Adler
Forgiveness of the other person, situation, or thing, including yourself.This does not mean they were right and you were wrong. For me, forgiving means I am tired of carrying the negative story in my head. That negative story manifests and brings out victimhood. Forgiveness does not make their behaviuor or action right.
4. Let go
Let go of and release the emotions and the feelings the situation brings. For me, those feelings cause me sleepless nights worrying and beating myself up and blaming myself. Just want to “Let Go”. Most of all, we need to let go of the story in the head and the belief that I am bad, I am not good a enough….. [fill in the blank].
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation the other, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward”.
– Steve Maraboli
5. Find acceptance and love
Fin acceptance and love in our lives. We must free ourselves from the energy suckers like guilt, regrets, anger, jealousy, fear and so many more.These are the vampires sucking our energy day and night, day after day. These are the feelings we get in our gut, our head or our chest. Where is your energy being robbed?
In his book “Love Is Letting Go of Fear”, Gerald G. Jampolsky M.D. gives the reader 12 steps to Greater Happiness, check it out HERE.
6. Freedom to choose
We are free to choose to take personal responsibility to forgive. We are now making the conscious choice and decision to move forward following our inner guidance to do whatever we want with our lives. The other person also has the same choice and responsibility to themselves.
There are many ways of letting go. but the choice is ours.
Once that is done we can tap into the universal unconditional love department and accept and love ourselves, we can accept and love the other for who they are even though their behaviour and actions are not acceptable, and most of all, you can love and accept yourself for who you are.
“If you want to fly in the sky, you need to leave the earth”
– Shannon L. Adler
I am sure trees have no regrets about letting go of all their leaves in one season.
Learn from nature, specifically the trees. Look back at the trees. Which tree is a model for you in letting go?
Please comment your thoughts and share what you have learned and which tree/s you chose or chose you.